And this week is no different! I reached out to Jami- on of my favorite bloggers and moms to hear from. You've surely heard of her and if not, do yourself a favor and hop over to her blog or instagram. She's one of those people who can speak hard truths while simultaneously being so funny that you almost wet yourself. That's a legit skill. With four kiddos and an awesome story of how God restored her marriage- I was so eager to hear her answers to the 5 questions. I LOVE how honest she is with them. Her answers to number 2 and 3 and 4 have me shaking my head and saying amen, sister.
But seriously. Are you loving this series as much as me? I'm learning that I'm not the only mom who needs grace {duh} and that it absolutely ok to pay someone to clean my house so I can focus on other things. What's been your favorite take away so far?
Just 5 Things
1. Give us your elevator speech. What's your go-to way to introduce yourself?
Hey. Do you like margaritas? Just kidding. Wait, I'm not.
I am a wife and mom ( to 4), an entrepreneur for an essential oils company, and I'm writing my first book, a marriage memoir coming out next year. Basically I have a ton of free time.
2. What has surprised you the most about being a mom?
I think how much work it is. How tired I am. How I lost myself a little bit when I was at home for 10 years, just deep in it. No one really thinks about that stuff when they plan for a family. We romanticize the idea, but it is just so difficult when you're in it. It is well worth the sacrifice, I will say that. But it has surprised me, the process of giving up so much to be all in for the family.
3. What is one thing you say 'no' to (or hire out!) in order to say 'yes' to better things?
I hire out a lot. I don't deep clean my house, I pay for that. I don't fold laundry either. I still try and cook 4 times a week, and the other times we scrounge or go out to eat. But I know that my time should be used in my gifts, and not in things that drain me so that I don't have time to operate in my gift set. My friend who is a genetic researcher said this to me once, "Not everyone can examine genes and do research for a cure for alzheimers. I hire out a lot of tasks, and get judged for it pretty hard, but I have to stay focused because I need to steward my gift well." For me, It's not about whether I can clean or cook or whatever, It's about what is my calling and how do I foster that. That will touch on a lot of value and identity issues, though. I want everyone to think I can do everything and be amazing, but the truth is, I can't. And I have to be able to admit that and be free from others expectations so that I can honor the gifts God gave me.
4. What would you tell your 10 year younger self about being a mom (or life in general!)?
Girl. It won't be like this forever. But remember that you're a real person, like outside this momming and wifing. It's ok to believe that you have value in other places. Other than your husband, kids, and home. I know that feels really weird to believe that for yourself, but you are something valuable apart from this.
5. If you could repeat one moment or part of being a mom over and over, what would it be?
Holding my babies for the first time in the hospital. Gosh. I just started crying. What a great moment. It is such a miracle and in that one moment, with that baby on my chest, I felt like everything was going to be ok. The world is all the sudden not as dark and hard.
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